25 Things To Do Before Turning 25 (Who am I kidding?! Any age!)
**In no particular order**
So I made this list on the cusp of my 25th birthday, (it has since come and gone) hence the title. Reading over it I realized that adding an age limit was really a disservice to the information it gives. Heck, I’m still working on some of these! This list is not all inclusive and I am open to more advice ! Let me know in the comments below what you think. (This is the first installment of #WellnessWednesdays where I plan to blog pieces that help all of us grow to the best version of ourselves.)
1. Love Yourself
it sounds simple enough and we hear it all the time, but it’s because it’s really that important to do. It starts within. We all know, “You can’t pour from an empty cup.”
2. Choose Happiness.
Happiness isn’t a place or a person, it’s a choice. A conscious one. You have to wake up each morning and be intentional about the day you want to have. Choose to be happy and anything that threatens that crush it and keep glowing.
3. Know When To Say No
Sometimes it’s okay to be a little selfish. Sometimes you need a moment or two to yourself. Whether it be to recharge or relax. If you honestly and truly don’t want to do something, listen to your gut. Stay home tonight. Your friends will understand.
4. Know When To Say Yes
Then there are other times when life will require a yes. Don’t get set in your ways, know when to surrender your reluctance and step out of your shell. Whether it’s a much needed drink after a very long and tedious week or an awesome networking mixer that your friends are dragging you to, do it. Life exists outside of your comfort zone. So go ahead, step out.
5. Be Choosy with your friendships
Not everyone is meant to dwell within your circle. Be careful who you choose to confide in and befriend. Your circle is apart of your support system and the last thing you need are flakes and fakes. Make sure you surround yourself with folk who know how to show up, especially when it’s important. Quality over quantity my friends, quality over quantity!
6. Love, Again
So some guy/girl broke your heart and now trusting someone else seems damn near impossible. I get it. But don’t allow someone else’s inability to love you the way you need to be loved make you shy away from it. Love is worth a second (and third and fourth) try. I promise.
I’ll be the first to tell you that I suffer from a well-known disorder commonly called RBF ( a fancy way of saying Resting B*%$# Face.) More times than not my face is not an accurate indicator of my mood. Don’t judge me, it’s something I am working on. But I don’t know, there’s just something about an inviting smile that just makes me feel all warm inside. Do me a favor , smile at at-least one person today (add hello if you think it might come off too creepy haha) and tell me in the comment below the reactions you get! How did it make you feel ?
8. Be Yourself
Cliche. I know. (I wanted so badly to add “Because everyone else is taken”, but I’ll save you all the semantics.) But hey, they have a point. Seriously, you are who you are for a reason. You , just as you are, serves so much purpose, don’t take that for granted. And if it helps, I think you are pretty damn awesome just as you are. Yes you.
9. See The World
Wanna tour the western isles or zipline through the amazon jungle? ( or is it forrest? Hell can you even do that ? Welp, guess it’s fact now that I wrote it, ha!) Do it!
10. Or Don’t
Sometimes you don’t have to travel the ocean blue to appreciate what’s right here in your own backyard. If sightseeing isn’t your thing , don’t feel bad ! There’s a beauty in stay still too.
11. Center Yourself
Now whether that’s achieved by meditation , yoga, going to Sunday service or reading the Quran , that’s completely up to you! Just make sure it’s on your to-do list. A good friend of mine said last week in our new podcast show (shameless plug) “Being centered is the first step to being sane.” And I agree with her wholeheartedly. Thanks for that reminder Kera.
12. Walk Away
From anything that does not serve you or grow you. You don’t have that kind of energy to expend. Trust me.
13. Laugh More
Doesn’t matter if the joke is funny or not. Hell you don’t even need a joke. Life’s all the joke you need. *laughs to keep from crying*
14. Manage Your Money
Listen , there’s nothing worst than working just to pay bills and be broke, it’s no fun. Learning to budget properly will save you so much money in the long term. Money you can use toward doing something that you actually enjoy doing!
15. Live In The Moment
*insert another cliche quote because, well, google has a plethora of them* Take it from the girl whose head is always in the clouds and whose feet are always miles in front of her, it’s okay to live in the now. It’s okay to be so unconcerned with the future ( for a second) that you can truly savor the moment. You only get it once. Make it good.
16. Try & Try Again
In my experience a delay is never an outright denial, keep pushing. Keep grinding. What’s yours will never pass you. And you can quote me on that.
17. Go For The Guy/Girl
Rejections sucks, I get it. But so does regret. ( you see what I did there?) The worse that can happen is they’ll totally crush your heart and destroy your confidence. No big deal. No sweat. That’s what ice-cream and chick flicks are for. That probably didn’t help much, huh? Sorry, don’t listen to me, I’m single haha.
In God (my big homie), in love , in greek mythology , hell even if the big bang bang theory is your thing, go for it! Learn to step outside yourself and realize that life is bigger than you. Look at the big picture, then frame it and hang it up:)
19. Celebrate The Wins
Made it to the gym? Yay! Made it out of bed? Yay! Time to celebrate! It’s so important to make sure you feel appreciated everyday and who better to show that appreciation, then you ! No matter how small the win celebrate the fact that life hasn’t got the best of you. Not everyone can say that.
Be a blessing to someone else for no reason other than you can. Learn to serve your fellow man. Never stop asking “ What can I do for you?” Service is truly a sign of love for humanity and love makes the world go round. Am I right?
It’s hard , I can say that from experience. If you are someone for whom it comes naturally, count your blessings. Either way it’s so necessary. Hate has no place where there is love. Harboring animosity toward another will slowly kill you if you let it. It’s not worth it. Set them free. Then set yourself free.
22. Check In & Check Up
When’s the last time you seen your doctor? Dealing with some issues you aren’t sure you can work through alone? Make sure your health ( mental, physical & spiritual) is at the forefront of your priorities list. Take care of your body, you only get one.
23. Speak Up
Silence can be golden. It can also be deafening. Use your voice to incite passion and promote change. Never let anyone strip you of your right to voice your concerns; to question the status quo. You must also acknowledge there is a balance, necessary because your words have power. If ever in doubt , you can use my momma’s mantra “If you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say nothing at all.”
24. Let Go
Of the idea in your head of how things are “suppose to be.” Let my diary tell it, I am suppose to be married with at least 3 kids by now and though I want nothing more than to be a wife and a mother, it has become clear that God/life has other plans for me. And guess what, that’s okay. Don’t kill yourself worrying about things you have no control over. Play the cards you’re dealt , until the dealer reshuffles :)
If you would have told me at 25 I’d be living 2,000 miles away from everything I know and everyone I love , actively chasing my dreams, I don’t know that I would have believed you. If it seems crazy and unattainable you are headed in the right direction. There is so much more to life than existing and I dare you to reach for greater. I can tell you from experience, it’s worth the risk.
Keep going, I’ll see you at the finish line